Photography

I've had my camera for well over a year now and I'm just starting to actually experiment with the different settings and figure out how to use them. I'm hoping by the time we have kids, I will be able to take some pretty good pictures so I don't have to haul them to the photographer all the time and spend tons of money:-)

Here's some pictures I've taken within the past few months.

Adoption Scam

I don't get the point in adoption scams. I mean obviously the truth comes out sooner or later. Well I was scammed. Last week I got an email from someone stating they had a 3 week old AA/CA daughter. She indicated she could not take care of the baby and wondered if I was interested. She sent 2 pictures of the baby. After further communication with her, she sent two more pictures that were supposed to be of herself with the baby. So many red flags came up with this situation. First of all she referred to herself as a birthparent and the father as the birthfather. Normally expectant moms don't refer themselves as a birthparent until after they have placed their child for adoption. At this point she should be considered a parent. Second of all, the way she was looking at the baby in the picture, she definitely did not look like someone ready to relinquish their child. She would never tell me why she felt she needed to place the child for adoption and would never tell me what state she lived in. I also noticed that the emails she sent came from Vanessa Maya. In her first email she signed her name Vanessa. In her second email she signed her name Maya. In another email where the pictures were attached, the pictures were called Alexis and Claire. I informed her that in order to consider this situation she must contact Bethany. She informed me she would do so.

I didn't hear from her today so I knew it was really looking suspicious. I made a post on the Bethany discussion board and found out that another waiting adoptive parent was scammed the same way. She was sent pictures of this Mom and baby last night as well.

It really makes you wonder why on earth this person took time to respond to emails, send pictures, etc. She never requested anything from me so it was basically just a waste of time.

All I have to say is thank goodness for "gut instincts" and thank goodness for Adoption agencies!!!!

Social worker is back!

Our social worker Renae has been on maternity leave for 3 months. She started back to work on Monday but we haven't heard anything from her. The director who we had been working with during Renae's time off thought she would be contacting us this week. I am hoping to hear from her soon. Our profile has not been shown since April. All we know is that they are working with some birthmom's but they aren't at a point where they are ready to look at profiles yet.

My friend Alyssa had a dream about Ross and I. She dreamt that we got our baby the end of summer. She felt it was so real and so vivid. I just find this amazing. Alyssa and I see each other through my nieces from time to time but we don't know each other THAT well. It's so amazing that she would have a dream about us out of the blue. Alyssa hasn't even met Ross yet, it just seems so amazing. I know our time will come, I can feel it getting closer.

I'm on my final cross stitch project. Once I finish Tigger I will be able to hang all four in the Nursery and then hang a couple other pictures my sister in law Michelle got for me. I also have some Pooh stickups to put on the walls. Once that is up, the Nursery will be complete. Don't worry, pictures of the final project will follow!!!

Prayers for friends

A few weeks ago I found out that some friends of ours were expecting a baby. K is 37 and G is 44. This was not planned or expected. They have a 9 year old daughter S. The only symptoms K experienced was tiredness and moodiness. After an examination and ultrasound it was determined she was 18 weeks pregnant. They were very shocked but estatic as they didn't even think this was possible. Due to K's age they sent her to get a few more tests. It has been determined that baby girl is missing most of her left ventricle and the valve is too small. It is such a sad situation. Please pray for this family. We know that God plants miracles and I know we are praying with all our heart that Baby girl will make it and prove to us what a miracle she really is.

Fun with the girls!!!

Kim, Emily and Daryan came to our house this weekend. We had tons of fun together. Daryan had never been to our house so it was a fun trip for her. We went to the park to play for a while, we went down to Island park and took some pictures, we played with the kittens at our place. The biggest event was taking the girls to Sioux Center to the All Seasons Center for swimming. We spent 3 hours there enjoying both the indoor and outdoor pools and slides. The girls got along wonderful which made us very happy. Emily as usual is the comic. When headed to Sioux Center, Ross made a comment "I think I missed my turn" so I in turn said "oh great now we have to backtrack a bit", and Emily's response "can we get our time back". She is so cute when she thinks about things like this. After we got home we ordered pizza and watched a movie. Hopefully in a couple years Miss Norah can come and stay too!!!!

Kimberly Caitlin


Emily Marie


Daryan Taylor


The girls and I, thank goodness for self timers!


Kimmy is so cute isn't she?


Miss D


The girls at Island Park, having lots of fun!


The girls playing outside on the farm!

The girls hanging out on the ramp, yeah we haven't gotten rid of it, might need it someday:-)



Emily and Libby the kitty

Happy Birthday Norah Bear!

Norah is 1 year old today. I can't believe how fast this past year has gone. I still remember the day Michelle told me she was 7 weeks pregnant with a baby. I am so proud to call Norah my niece and Goddaughter. She is so much fun and has really helped some of our down days turn into bright days. We celebrated Norah's birthday this past weekend. I wasn't able to be there for cake and pizza so I gave Norah her present early. We got her a Build and Spill Musical Turtle. I've heard a lot of good reviews on this toy and she should be able to use it for a while. She seemed to like opening the gift but I think she was more interested in the box! That's a 1 year old for ya!

Happy Birthday sweet Norah Bear, we love you!!!!!

Wisconsin Dells

Ross and I took our annual vacation to Wisconsin Dells. We had always talked about it but hadn't ever done it so this year we decided to. Who knows, it may be one of the last vacations we take without children. We stayed at a very nice hotel owned by a family. It was more like mini apartments then a motel room. The rooms were very nice and we had a fridge and microwave in our room. There were a lot of nice restaurants around our hotel, we made it to a pizza place a couple times and to an italian restaurant. We had an outdoor heated pool at our motel which was very nice because there weren't a lot of guests staying so we basically had it to ourselves whenever we wanted. Some of the activities we did was to go to Mount Olympus which is an amusement park and water park. We spent over 8 hours there and had a blast. There were so many things to do and we would definitely go back again. We also took a tour on the Ducks which was pretty fun. The Duck is a vehicle that can go on land and in water. We also took a tour on the jet boat. We got pretty wet that day but did enjoy the ride. We also went to a couple other places but I won't go into detail. Here are some pictures from our vacation.

Top Secret


Inside Top Secret


Nice Boat for display


Army Ducks


Ross & Amber before riding the Ducks


Monster inside Top Secret


Bill Clinton inside Top Secret


Touring the lake on the Duck


Big rock on the lake, can see right through to the other side


Mt. Olympus roller coaster


Amber and Elvis at Denny's


Barge


Barge coming in


Elvis

WAIT (a poem)

Wait Desperately, helplessly, longingly I cried,
Quietly, patiently, lovingly He replied.
I pled and I wept for a clue to my fate.
And the Master so gently said, “Child, you must wait.”

“Wait! You say wait!” my indignant reply,
Lord, I need answers - I need to know why.
Is Your hand shortened, or have You not heard?
By faith I have asked, and I’m claiming Your word.”

My future and all to which I can relate,
Hangs in the balance and You tell me ‘wait’?
I’m needing a ‘yes’—a go ahead sign,
Or at least a ‘no’ to which I can resign.

And Lord, I’ve been asking and this is my cry,
I’m weary of asking, I need a reply,
Then quietly, softly I learned of my fate,
As my Master replied, once again, “You must wait.”

So I slumped in my chair, defeated and taut.
And I grumbled to God—”So I’m waiting, for what?”
He seemed then to kneel and His eyes met with mine,
And He tenderly said, “I could give you a sign.”

“I could shake the heavens, darken the sun,
Raise up the dead, cause the mountain to run.
All you seek, I could give and pleased you would be.
You would have what you want, but you wouldn’t know Me.”

“You’d not know the depth of My love for each saint.
You’d not know the power that I give to the faint.
You’d not learn to see through clouds of despair.
You’d not learn to trust just by knowing I’m there.”

“You’d not know the joy of resting in Me.
When darkness and silence was all you could see.
You’d never experience that fullness of love,
As the peace of my Spirit descends like a dove.”

“You would know that I give and save for a start,
But you’d not know the depth of the beat of My heart,
The glow of My comfort, late in the night,
The faith that I give when you walk without sight,

“The depth that’s beyond getting just what you ask,
Of an infinite God that makes what you have last!
And you never would know should your pain quickly flee,
What it means that, “My grace is sufficient for thee.”

Yes, your dreams for that loved one,
One night would come true.
But oh the loss if you lost what I’m doing to you.

So be silent, my child, and in time you will see,
That the greatest of gifts is to get to know Me.
And though oft may My answers seem terribly late,
That My most precious answer of all is still ‘wait’.”

by Russell Kelfer

First Road Race

Well I had my very first road race on June 16th. I ran the 2 mile race. I walked a small portion of the race. I was very pleased with my results. I finished 5th out of 8 in my age bracket with a time of 22:05. I placed 39 out of 60 in the 2 mile with all ages combined so I think I did fairly well for my first time. I'm hoping to try the 5k next year. This is definitely an improvement considering I've never really been a runner. Heck I never even went out for track in High School. I didn't really even train for the race. I mean I went on the treadmill about 4 days a week and I would run some of it, but that's about. I entered the race basically to prove to myself that I can do it and now I know I can. I guess we'll see how next year goes and how I am doing in the exercise department. Hopefully I can keep up with it and not slack off at all.

A Rollercoaster ride

Our social worker Renae is on maternity leave now so we have been assigned to a new social worker Kim. We have never met her but have corresponded with her via email. She seems like a wonderful person and very informative. Last Thursday she emailed to let us know there was a 19 year old Hispanic Mom that is due in July. She came from Mexico recently and Birthdad is still there. She does not speak any English. They were waiting to receive medical information before deciding whether to send our profile out to this mom or not. The social worker from Mason City went to the birthmom's clinic this week and waited for 1 1/2 hours to speak to the clinic. She was only able to speak to the clinic personnell for about 5 minutes. The social worker encouraged the gal at the clinic to have the birthmom call them. As of this date they have not heard from Birthmom so aren't really sure what is going on. It appears Birthmom may have decided to parent after all. I'm actually handling this pretty well. My only concern is the child. I hope and pray she does what is best for the baby. It appears she has no financial support and no family support, so obviously the best interest of the child is adoption. We just pray for this birthmom and child no matter what happens.

On another note, we have hit our 5 month mark. So we're hoping we're half way there to meeting our child.

Weekend with my Goddaughter/Niece Norah

I hadn't seen my sweet Norah Bear for almost 3 months. It's amazing how much she's grown in that short time. She's now 9 months old, crawling everywhere and getting into everything. I bet she'll be walking in no time. It took her a little while to get used to me again but once she did she loved playing with me and letting me hold her. She went to Ross fairly quickly too. My parents brought Michelle and Norah to my work and then we went out for dinner at Shari's Kitchen. Then I took Michelle on a tour of our home. She loved the house and thought it was wonderful. Norah even got to try out the changing pad in the Nursery. Then we headed back to Milford. Michelle and I made a quick trip to Walmart and then back to Mom and Dad's house. Ross was able to spend a little time with Norah before we left. He is so good with her. He took her outside behind the house and picked a few tulips. He's going to be a wonderful father. Here's some fun pictures of the weekend with Norah Bear!!!!

Uncle Ross and Norah Bear!

Sweet Sleeping Angel!


Ross picked a tulip for Norah...awww!

Norah and her Godparents. So sweet.

Aunt Amber and little Norah

Norah riding her Piglet.

Fun in the sun!

Our niece Emily came to stay with us this past weekend. Ross was busy in the field so Em and I got a lot of one on one time. I'm sure she was very pleased with that. We enjoy spoiling her when we can. We went to Slade's for dinner which she totally loved. This girl could live on ice cream I swear. I also had to get a few things at the Dollar Store so I took her with me and let her pick out a couple toys which was fun for her. Then we ventured over to the grocery store for some snacks. Later on we went to the park in Georged and played for an hour or so. Then it was back to the farm to play with the kittens and Sam. We had a minor meltdown when it appeared we wouldn't be fitting swimming into our schedule for this trip. I assured Em we would do it again when Kim comes along. I was able to convince her that playing with the kitties, Sam, going to Slades, the grocery store, going to the Dollar Store and getting toys, playing in the house, going to the park was actually more fun then a couple hours at the pool. I captured some pictures of her at the park. She's such a pretty girl and oh so funny.

A quick ride in the tractor with Ross.


Emily in the train at the park


On the monkey bars, I love the blue background


All Star on the teeter totter

Just being cute as ever.

Song of a Waiting Mother

I’m pregnant but my tummy isn’t showing,
And no one ever calls me “little mom”.
My neighbors simply aren’t overflowing
With questions that I’d handle with aplomb.
There are no special clothes to mark my waiting.
Nobody stops and smile as I pass by.
The absence of a due date is frustrating,
And looking at the nursery makes me cry.
When I’m “overdue”, no one will worry.
The phone won’t ring and ring as friends check in.
I can’t induce my labor in a hurry,
My new life as a parent to begin.
Adoption is a wearisome endeavour,
And waiting all alone is not much fun.
To be “with child” a year seems like forever …
Dear God, we’re ready: please send us our son or daughter!

Profile being shown!

Our Social worker emailed to let us know that our profile went out to a potential birth mother yesterday. This could be very exciting or it could turn out to be nothing. We are praying hard for this Birth mother and the decision she has to make. We don't have any details and we don't know how many profiles the birth mom is viewing. We should know something in a few weeks. At least our profile is being shown, that is very exciting considering we have only been waiting 3 months.
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**UPDATE**

Our social worker emailed to let us know that our profile was returned to the office. The birthfather's family is helping him to make a parenting plan. I totally understand and respect the decision this family has made. I pray it is in the best interest of the child.

Guest Room is finished!

I am so happy. The guest room is now completed. It started off with one purple while with darker purple Moon's and the rest of the walls white. Why I wanted purple, I have no idea. I just know that we would like 2 children and after our first child outgrows the Winnie the Pooh theme, I'd like the next child to go to the guest bedroom. We painted all of the walls a medium brown color. Then I found this cute border in Sioux Falls of lab puppies. So we hung the border in the middle of the wall all the way around. We moved in my blue chest of drawers and bed. I bought a light brown comforter for the bed. We also put light tan carpet down over the hardwood floor. Then I found some nice multi brown colored window panels and they looks so nice in the room. I love it. My Mom helped me do most of it. It looks great!!!!! I enlarged some pictures of Sam and Shadow and hung them in frames and put them in the room. The finishing touch was the blue lava lamp on top of the dresser. Now when we have a child ready to move into the room, the brown wals should be able to go, unless of course it's a girl and they really want pink, I think we'll deal with that when the time comes :-)

Going on Month #3

Well we're about a week away from being on the waiting list for 3 months. I can honestly say time is starting to pick up the pace a little bit. For me that is a darn good thing. I check in with our social worker every few weeks. I do know that our profile is being viewed which we are very thankful for. This week we were asked to consider a situation in which a baby to be born would be 75% African American and 25% Caucasion. We initially selected that we would be open to a biracial child, but African American was not one of our choices. We really thought this over and prayed a lot. We really aren't 100% sure if this is right for us or not. That being said, at this point we don't believe our family is the best fit for this child.

Currently I am working on our spare bedroom getting it fixed up and moving some furniture out of the Pooh room to be placed in the spare bedroom. Ross laid the carpet in the spare bedroom and now we need to get the curtain panels hemed and the border put up. Then the furniture can go in. Once that is done, then we can really begin getting the nursery set up.

Well that's our update for now. Hope all is well with everyone!!! I can't believe Easter is right around the corner.

Keeping Busy!

Well I have been getting involved in a few projects around the house to keep myself busy. Ross is starting to work a little later at night, he will soon be preparing to get back into the field. I am currently working on a few Winnie the Pooh cross stitch projects that will be hung up in the "soon to be Nursery". I am also doing a few things in our guest bedroom that will keep me busy. My goal is to turn it into a "puppy" theme room. I have tons of pictures of Sam and Shadow so I know I could hang those up in there. I also found a cool puppy border that would work. I am excited to get it finished up. Hopefully the girls will like it and want to sleep in there when they come visit.

In a way it feels like time is creeping by, but yet our 2 month wait has gone pretty fast, if that makes any sense. We did make some revisions to our online and hardcopy profiles. The hardcopies at the offices have been changed. We're waiting for the online profile to get changed.

Keep checking back for any updates. Thanks for the continued support.

One Month Down...

Well we've been waiting for a little over a month now. In a way it's gone pretty fast, but yet in another way it's gone slow. The WAITING part is the hardest part of all. We basically have no idea when we will get picked. It could be 2 months from now, it could be 2 years from now. So in a nutshell I don't have much to report. I did receive an email from the Bethany Social worker who informed us that our profile has been looked at already, but unfortunately no takers.

We're starting to buy baby things here and there. Next weekend we're going to stop at Babies R Us and see if we can find a crib. We would like to get the Nursery set up in case we would be matched soon and wouldn't have time to complete it. I've also started registering online at Walmart. I decided not to post the link to our baby registry as it gives out identifying information, but for those of you who want to take a look, just search for our last name. I think I put in a fake due date of 1/3/08. Apparently websites that offer baby registries don't take into consideration that adoptive parents need registries too so therefore I ALWAYS have to put in a due date.

Well that's our update for now. Please continue to keep us in your prayers.