Today we got an email from our social worker. She was wondering if she could send our profile to North Carolina for a few birthmoms to look at. There are 3 pregnant African American moms right now and she briefly described the three situations.
Situation #1- In this situation there is unknown drug or alcohol use and the birthfather is aware of the situation. The birthmother is 20 years old and they have just begun to work with her, so some information is limited.
Situation #2- In this situation the birthmother is 18 years old who is looking at adoption. There has been no drug or alcohol use and the birthfather is in support of adoption. The birthmother's mom is encouraging the birthmother to parent, but the birthmother is still considering adoption.
Situation #3- In this situation the birthmother is 19 and is looking at adoption. She has been receiving prenatal care, and the birthfather is not involved in the process. The birthmother is receiving little support through the pregnancy.
We decided to pass on situation #1 because we really feel we need to know if there was any type of drug or alcohol usage. We may not know anything for a while as it's up to the birthmom as to when she looks at profiles. She may wait a little closer to her pregnancy. In all of these situations, they are all due within 3 months. I looked up North Carolina state law and it appears that after the parents sign the papers, they have 5 days to change their mind. If we would happen to be chosen we could end up having stay in NC for 3 weeks or so.
Prayers would be greatly accepted at this time!
4 comments:
Many prayers for you and your husband as well as the birthmothers and the babies. Hope you hear something soon!
Lisa
I will keep you in my prayers! This is such a nerve wrecking time!!
Thanks Amber about your comment on my post. We have crossed Lifetime off of our list. Just really uncomfrtable with paying everything up front and not having a refund policy in case birhtmom chooses not to place or we never get chosen. Adoption Law Center, to be honest I kind of have an uneasy feeling about them. They are suppose to be sending me information so I willhave to look further into it but I just do not have a good "gut" feeling , ya know???
Oh and I left a response to your questions on AT about flying with an infant..if you have any other questions, just ask!
Lisa
Oh and we also crossed Gladney off the list..just not impressed with them...
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